Sunday, October 29, 2006
Couples quarrel, all the time. I mean, which couple does not have its own share of tears and squabbles? Some might end really sour, some will just make the relationship stronger, but at the end of the day, it's how YOU and YOUR PARTNER choose the ending.
Wendy was saying in her blog, that she and Adrian are still very much in love, and every tiff behind, there is always a brighter side waiting to reveal itself and everyone would be happy again.
But my relationship works differently from hers. After every quarrel, I always felt very bitter and hateful. I often regretted why I married this man, the very cause of my misery. I would even feel this way if the fight was a miniscule issue. Like how the baby was being fed, my ability to bring out baby alone, blah blah blah... Even when Kelvin apologised, I will still carry a fair amount of anger within me.
I must try to change huh? Cos i see Wendy trying her very best to adapt to her new family life, accomodating Adrian,swallowing all her unhappiness inside in an attempt to please everyone else but herself, giving all her love to her family.... All these things she does makes me feel I have not done anything for Kelvin at all. So loser right?
Let's hope I can make it through another squabble with Kelvin, and I must remind myself it takes 2 hands to clap and I must go through my life journey with Kelvin after all.
Brain freezed @
11:45 AM
Sunday, October 22, 2006
To bring a four month old out on a simple shopping trip sometimes feel like you are trying to pack a week's worth of necessities into a bag. Just because your mother in law (she knows best) says: JUST IN CASE.
JUST IN CASE the baby burps and stains his clothes, so you must bring extra for him to change. Not one suit, not two but four to five sets of clothing. Plus the matching booties and caps and mittens and this and that. But why? You asked, really need so many sets meh? Mother in law will frown and give you a areyouchallengingmyexpertise kind of look. You obeyed and pack. (This one I am not so sceptical cos i have already encountered a lot of times that baby might need to change his attire outside.)
JUST IN CASE the baby does his poops outside or needed to change his diapers, so you need to bring clean diapers for changing. At least five more pieces, and yes at least five, even if the place you are going later is only a stone throw away from your home. Why do you need to bring so many?? Mother in law will shoot you the whyareyouaskingsomuchiaskyoubringyoubringifnotyouwillregretit kind of stare and you feel intimated.
JUST IN CASE the baby gets messy and needs to clean himself. So? Pack baby wipes.
JUST IN CASE the baby is in a happy mood and wants to be carried and doe not want to stay in a stoller, you have to bring the baby slinger to carry the baby in. if the baby falls asleep halfway thru the trip you will have to use the stroller for the baby to sleep in.
JUST IN CASE the baby gets thirsty and demands more water/milk, you have to carry drinking water and extra milk powder so you will be able to take care of his hunger's needs all the way.
JUST IN CASE baby is cold and needs an extra jacket. So you bring the extra jacket.
JUST IN CASE baby is cold and DOES NOT WANT the jacket, you need to pack a blankie.
JUST IN CASE the baby is tired and misses his pillow, so you have to bring his pillow.
By the time you are through packing, you are damn tired and you dun feel like going out anymore. Plus, the bags are so heavy you feel like you are packing off to go to Genting instead.
Brain freezed @
1:38 PM
Friday, October 13, 2006
A friend's brother and sister in law are getting a divorce. Only after 1 year of marriage. Leaving the child a broken hoome and lots of unfulfilled dreams. I hate people like that.
The child is only 1 year old! Yes, you guessed it correct. The woman got knocked up and they decided to get hitched. The relationship wasn't even very stable to start with. Thet had a lot of breakups and quarrels. In fact, it's only after their 1,000,000th break up that she realised she was knocked up and they decided to get married on a whim.
OK, if you are determind to make the marriage work, whether you have a child or not shouldn't complicate things alot. You can be a wild child before being a parent, but as soon as you know that you are gonna take care of a baby soon, you should start to be more responsible.
Well, apparently, the mother accused the hubby of having an affair outside. Whether its true or not, I don't really care. But the husband complains that the wife often stayed out partying with her frens till the wee hours, and often complain about the tiniest thing.
HOW????
I pity the little boy.
Brain freezed @
6:03 PM
Tuesday, October 10, 2006
Baby getting a bit cranky as time for makan creeps near...
"I want my milk!!!!!!" Baby roars, and even the camera gets a bit shaky....
"Hmmmm....." Baby darling finally sucks in the intoxicating milk (MILK is Superdad's secret weapon), and slowly falling asleep as Superdad feeds him, and slowly loses ability to keep awake...
PEACE! Baby darling finally sleeps! But so does Superdad, after a long day out at the mall with Baby darling.
VIVO CITY!!!!
Went to the newly opened Vivo City for some serious foot work-out, and got more than what I bargained for...
Super-big can???? The place is so bloody big, and with so many bloody people lor....
See??? Crowds!!! Nothing but crowds... but as usual, see but never buy... the things there are quite high-end, plus its only 30% opened. A lot of shops are still under renovation, especially eateries... you can't get food! So must head over to HarbourFront Centre if you wanna eat at the foodcourt. Vivo only has restaurants for now...
But the view outside Vivo is really nice.... Can see Sentosa...
Brain freezed @
6:09 PM
Friday, October 6, 2006
Lincoln learning how to become spiderman.... He giggles loudly and waves his arms around whenever lying flat on his little tum. I miss him day in day out... can't wait for the day when he can finally stay with me EVERY day.
Love his smile, his laughter, his wriggling toes and inqusitive fingers, his everything....
He's looking at my phone, quite excited... seems like he knows I'm trying to take a picture of him....
Brain freezed @
2:13 PM
Tuesday, October 3, 2006
Sianz...major sianz... was working halfway when fever strikes... Kelvin came to fetch me and I went home at 3pm and saw the doctor. Must rest more... sleep more... blah blah blah... the usual stuff. He said I fell ill because of exhaustion.. -_-
So tired!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
ARGH!!!!!!
Brain freezed @
9:18 PM
Monday, October 2, 2006
Taken right after his birth... When I first saw so many tubes inserted into his body, my whole world just collapsed, I wondered how come God punished my child by making him so sick right at birth. If God wanted to punish me, he should look for me but please spare my baby...
Lincoln is considered tall (or long?) at birth, 52cm... I didn't get to see him sraight after my operation, so Kelvin took this picture in the ICU and gave it to me in the ward. I cried when I laid my eyes on the picture, because firstly, he was the most beautiful creature I ever saw (through a mummy's eyes) and secondly, he was so fragile and weak and had to be supported by machines.
Luckily,God heard my prayers and gave me a very strong-willed boy. He recovered well and by the first week, Lincoln had his tubes removed, except for one in his arm, meant for medication use. We visited him everyday without fail, to let him know that his family love him and will stay by his side no matter what.
My Lincoln now :)
3 months have passed by, and he is a lively little prince with all the smiles and laughter. Doesn't seem like he had been sick when he was a newborn.
When he cries, he cries damn loudly and with a lot of force. While other parents may be impatient or even get angry with their kids for crying alot, I always thank God instead for giving him strong lungs so that he can cry loudly. Cos last time, the doctors told us his lungs wasn't developed enough. So now the louder he cries, the more developed his lungs are right?
Whenever I see his smile, I would thank God for giving Lincoln a healthy body, whenever he cries, I thank God for giving me a feisty little baby.
Please continue to bless my little prince, God. Let no harm come his way.
Brain freezed @
3:12 PM
I GOT TO STOP SHOPPING!!!!!!!
First I went to Isetan with Sherri to get a pair of shoes. With a Charles & Keith $20.00 voucher, I got myself a pair of low heels with a top up of $9.90.
Then went on to CK Tangs and bought a bag @ $39.90....
Then went on to Body Shop and bought a moisturiser @$22.90.
Then went Crystal Jade - Shanghai Xiao Long Bao for dinner! (Seriously, the food sucks big time, I would never go again.....Service is poor too, except for a kind lady who keeps topping up our iced water)
Spent toooooooo much!
Dinner was considered ex too, cos I kept telling myself to eat cheaply.... but my stomach always gets the better of my senses and I end up eating expensive food.... Si bei jia-lat.....
Brain freezed @
10:44 AM